I posted about being back last year, but not really fulfilling it. Since it is the New Year, I intend to write more and so here I start again. Besides, someone told me today that I write so well, I should go back.

And what better way to start writing than to actually answer a question.

I have been asked multiple times of what I'm looking for, in a guy to date, be with or eventually marry and I never really had the time to sit down and think about it. Except, now.

I have these qualities in my head that seem to jumble up everytime I'm asked, so I decided to humor this person who asked me and actually think about it, as well as break it down.

I'm not high-maintenenance, really. Regardless of what people think, I'm easy. Of course some may say that standards are standards and that they may be high for others, but these are the basic preference.

Think about it, being in a relationship means spending time with this significant other and hoping to eventually go the distance and plan about the future. This has to be someone who will support me mentally, physically, emotionally, (financially *coughs*) and spiritually, even. Why would I waste time on someone who I'll regret being with in the long run? That doesn't make sense to me and so if the basic criteria isn't met, why bother?

Going back to the qualities, there are only a few and they are as follows:

1. Intellect. I don't go for book-smart (although it'll be amazing if you're a reader too, because I sure am), I want someone I can talk to. I want someone who I can spend a day just making random yet sensible conversation. I don't want people impressing me with just one mundane topic under the sun all day. I'm a writer, I love playing with imagination and talking about scenarios. The possibilities are endless. I want depth and you can only get it from someone who is intellectual. Sense of humor can also only be successfully owned by an intellectual person. We don't have to click immediately, but as long as we get there, we should be okay.
2. Passion. This person has to be passionate about something. Music. Art. Literature. Something. You'll know a person can be passionate about love if they're already passionate in something not everyone understands. You'll see a sparkle in their eyes when they're talking about this obsession and it makes them who they are. There's a vulnerability in a passionate person that is ultimately appealing to me. 
3. Genuine affection. I'm a very open person; I don't like hiding my feelings or my emotions. I'm very sensitive to touch and I love being showed affection to. I'm vocal and very verbal, and I'd appreciate the same treatment.
4. Attention. Time and attention. I like spending time. I like my time to be my time. That's all there is to it. If it's "my time", attention should be all on me.
5. Transparency and acceptance. I want brutal honesty. I want to know everything and understand everything. Of course, the general butt-hurt-ness will show, that's a given, especially if "the past" is of discussion, but I want to know everything. That way, I know you can be honest with and loyal to me... and we may learn to accept each other.

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